A mum and a parenting coach
I help mothers eliminate the extreme emotional behaviours of their child, and grow emotionally intelligent children through love and connection. I’ve learnt the tools, techniques and mindset needed to take control of my life while helping my son to do the same.
We share a deep and loving connection as we journey through life, embracing our imperfections. But it wasn’t always this way.
When my son was just six years old, I hit breaking point, left him in the care of my parents, and considered putting him into foster care.
I became a mother at just 18 and spent years juggling that responsibility with a desire to be young and free.
I made heaps of mistakes, getting into dangerous situations and dating a lot of bad men. I even moved 500km away to live with one guy, leaving family, friends and belongings behind. The relationship ended very badly, and I was suicidal and depressed.
With the help of a counsellor, I picked myself back up, started over, got a house and started being a better mum.
One day I saw an ad in the paper for a counselling diploma via correspondence, and I was inspired to learn how to help other people in the way my counsellor had helped me. My parents funded my studies and I dove right in and learned so much which helped me to regain some control in life.
Ideally, this would be the part of the story where I tell you that I turned my life around, and we all lived happily ever after.
But this isn’t a fairytale, and I had a few more mistakes to make.
When my son was in kindergarten, I became obsessed with dance. I was doing about 3-4 classes per week and dancing at home for about 3 hours every day. Everything else got neglected.
I got into debt, and my son started having big behavioural issues.
He didn’t participate in class and by the end of Year 1, he had been suspended from school three times for violence. He was falling behind his peers academically and socially.
Child services got involved when he began talking about killing himself at school. He was only six years old. At Christmas that year, I snapped. I couldn’t do it anymore. I didn’t know what to do. So I left him with my parents and considered giving him up to fostering.
Now we can start playing the uplifting music because this child-free break was a huge turning point for me.
I didn’t give up.
I started taking action that put me back in control of my life, and helped me to be the mum he needed.
I enrolled my son in a new school and got a caseworker to help him with his emotional and behavioural difficulties.
Shortly after, I attended a weeklong program hosted by The Catholic Guy (Bruce Downes) and it changed my life. It reconnected me with my faith, and I began to feel that maybe the Universe (or God) was on my side.
My sister gave me a Tony Robbins program, and I applied as much of his teachings to my life as I could. Things began to change further.
Beau began turning back into himself, and so did I.
I watched proudly as Beau gained confidence at school, becoming more social and participating more readily in class.
And I took control of myself in a whole new way, determined to make my life something that both I and Beau could be proud of. I decided that I wanted to become a coach, but before starting something new I wanted to finish my diploma in counselling.
I became a counsellor.
Five years after starting, I graduated with a Diploma in Professional Counselling, with a study major in Child Development and Effective Parenting.
The diploma taught me so much about communication and human development. I learned that advice was actually a roadblock to communication, it’s more effective to help people find their own way.
I also learnt a lot of specialised skills, techniques and therapies. I was blown away by the possibilities of each of them, and how they could be mixed and used for different people in different situations at different times.
I aced every part of my studies because I was so passionate and captivated by the material.
I became a coach.
With my counselling diploma complete, I was ready to research coaching qualifications, which led me to Scott Harris and his Ultimate Coach Pro course.
I went into my Ultimate Coach Pro training hopeful but unsure, and I came out the other side unstoppable. I left armed with tools and techniques I could use to create meaningful and lasting change in people’s lives.
I learnt how to help someone create a specific and measurable plan; how to guide someone into their peak state and set goals; how to explore wins and successes and move them from the now into the future; how to rely on myself and connect with my resourcefulness, mainly in my ability to communicate effectively with others and to influence them.
I’m not deliriously happy all the time. But becoming a coach has taught me to believe in myself.
I cut myself some slack, and let myself feel the negative stuff without dwelling on it or crossing over into depression. And most importantly, I’m teaching my son to do the same.
I’m not a perfect person or parent, but I know that even though sometimes I yell at my son or make him feel bad, that’s OK. Because I am only human and I am showing my son that it is OK to make mistakes, as long as you always take responsibility for them. You apologise when you hurt someone, and you identify the reasons you made the mistake and you strive to turn the challenges into wins.
My parenting journey has brought me so much.
An unshakeable connection with my child; the ability to coach him and myself through any hardship; and the skills needed to develop his and my inner strength.
I want to help you find the same.
You don't have to do this alone
With the right support, tools and techniques, you can learn how to turn each challenge into a learning opportunity, each tantrum into a chance for connection.